Jumping in (1st post)

[Gardener]

Cutting and pasting and adding to my must-remember sandi2's Greatest Hits (hit gardener - by proxy - over the head with WAW truisms, that is.

Hi Cabbr
I believe for a woman the worst thing a man can be is indifferent toward her. As long as you show anger or any emotion of being upset, then she know's she's still getting to you. I think that is one reason men like Puppy & Coach are successful in DBing b/c they remain calm but firm in their actions. Speaking in a soft, firm voice will do more to a female than a raised voice in anger.

Dropping the rope is the best thing a H can do with his WAW. It seems to be the very hardest thing for men here on the board to do b/c they allow their emotions to be in charge. Dropping the rope appears that you are completely disinterested in what she does or doesn't do. To her, you appear to not have any feelings about her one way or the other. That is what a woman can't stand! If anything will pull her out of her fog, I believe it is that.

However, there is one very important factor and if you don't have that factor....it won't work. That being.....you must do this for YOU and in order to have peace and be able to move forward with the idea that it could be without her in your life. Dropping the rope has to be for you.....not a ploy to get her back.