can tell you as an almost WAW, when my H finally dropped the rope is when I begin to work on my issues and stopped the EA and started working to find my way out of the fog. If you have not been able to drop the rope you have tied to your W, then you will continue to beat yourself up and you will suffer at your own hand.
I would like to know how you, as a an almost WAS, noticed your H had dropped the rope (i.e., how YOU knew he had).
I think we LBS's (myself included) wonder if our WAS's even notice we have (or are trying to) dropped the rope.
