Are you speaking of your own backslides? I think that has to be up to each individual b/c they are the only ones who truly know how much they can take. LBS do get hard on themselves b/c they notice every tiny thing that is said and done. They disect every sentent, every move, try to read minds.....and with all that pressure on them, of course they are going to backslide. Everyone does.

I can tell you as an almost WAW, when my H finally dropped the rope is when I begin to work on my issues and stopped the EA and started working to find my way out of the fog. If you have not been able to drop the rope you have tied to your W, then you will continue to beat yourself up and you will suffer at your own hand.

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!