I dont buy it either. Manipulated? How many times? For how long, over what period of time? And most women and men probably did feel "vulnerable" at some point and opened the door to a third party. I think that we are all human and make mistakes and really I am not the type to judge, especially the cases where it was a mistake (proven by the choices after the affair). But I cant call mistakes the repeatitive cheating and the lying and I cant agree that the WAS had no choice or was temporarily insane. We can all smell trouble when it comes our way.
And by the way, I believe most people at some point in their M hit a low, how come not everyone "breaks the contract" as Puppy says? It would be so much easier if we could blame it all on the OPs...
Cheating should be a reason for divorce and should affect the financial settlement. It sucks that it doesnt. K
