Did ok w/the H for the most part... Had a few "moments" of some fly by nastiness, and a few "moments" of some fly by foglift.
H had a little accident during his fireworks display (after the real fireworks - seen from our yard). He didn't want to navigate through a bunch of people to go to our lower yard, so leapt over the stairs going down to our boathouse, slipped, and took a tumble down the stairs (about 10 feet). He has a few key bruises, and was really sore yesterday, not to mention grumpy from staying awake until 4am on the 4th/5th really. So, the fly by nastiness was rooted in all of this, but definitely unnecessary. Hardly worth mentioning even though I just gave it a paragraph! LOL
So, let's check in on the goals.
Originally Posted By: mindblank
#1 - To attract some kind of interest from H.
WHAT TO DO DIFFERENT - Limit my initiation of contact w/H (while he is away working during the week) to required contact re: children.
Hard to do this during the weekend when he's here 24x7, however, I made sure not to be in his face all the time. #2 - To enjoy a non-kid event together.
WHAT TO DO DIFFERENT - Make sure I don't have any kind of "meltdowns" in his presence anymore. Smile. Enjoy. Be someone H wants to be around, w/ and w/out kids.
No meltdowns!
#3 - To have a physical presence I'm proud of.
WHAT TO DO DIFFERENT - STOP relaxing the weight loss/exercise efforts!
Blew this one!
#4 - To allow my H to LEAD, and not PUSH from my end.
WHAT TO DO DIFFERENT - Let H make decisions. Ask him for advice. If I sense he's not comfortable w/something we're doing/deciding on, step back and allow him to have a voice.
See reply to Storm!
So, all in all a fun weekend. o/~ Back to life. Back to reality. o/~ Monday am. Yuk!
Last edited by mindblank; 07/06/0910:19 AM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
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