I wish she would stop trying to coax me into fights. It is obvious with some of the things that come out of her mouth what she is doing.
you know not to believe a word she says. she doesn't know what she wants and don't let her convince you otherwise. drop the rope and stop trying to guide her right now. unfortunately your not going to convince her of anything either. she's going to have to come to a conclusion on her own. just don't make it easy for her to do exactly what you don't want, i.e. divorce.
Of course when she came home, she had to try to coax me into another fight. I didn't take the bait. I did however end up bringing up the receipt. She had a reasonable excuse, I couldn't argue it, it would have done no good to argue it. Believe nothing they say. Then of course anything that I bring up, such as that , W has to turn on me and make accusations against me. I didn't fall into the trap which I think made her mad and she went off to bed.
Oh, I am well aware of that little trap. But thank you. It is a hell of a lot easier to fight for her when she can point out things about me, and take the spot light off of herself. Nice try honey, I am not falling into your little trap tonight.
Onto a new day, kids get back home this evening. Gonna have to see how everything goes with them back home. Man it is harder and harder to remain optimistic in this sitch. Resentment toward W tends to build everyday.
I have seen this asked on other threads and wondered this myself, why is it so hard for a LBH to drop the rope? I try and I think that I am, but I keep finding myself hitching it to a post to make it simple to grab again. Is this just something that takes time or do I just MAKE myself do it?
I think you have to discipline yourself to do it. In fact, I think the whole DB approach is more about discipline than it is particularly complex or difficult.
Let's face it, most of us aren't very self-disciplined (I know I'm certainly not). And then you're suddenly forced to be, overnight.
I think you have to discipline yourself to do it. In fact, I think the whole DB approach is more about discipline than it is particularly complex or difficult.
Let's face it, most of us aren't very self-disciplined (I know I'm certainly not). And then you're suddenly forced to be, overnight.
Puppy
PDT places it all right in the perfect, proverbial nutshell. Amen.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
