Your S14 reminds me of my S25. He always threatened to kill any man that I dated. And he did threaten some old high school boyfriend who started IMing with me on the internet. So that ended. Once he saw me out at a bar, dancing with a stranger, so he pulled me aside and threatened to kill him too. I didn't even know the guy's name. Anyway, he kept me pretty much in line. And when my husband had his affair, and I found OW's phone number on the bill, I gave it to S, at that time 22, to call her and say whatever he felt. Apparently, it was another death threat. But that affair ended that day too. And his response when I told him his father wanted a divorce, "I'm going to insist on living with him. And I will make his life miserable. He'll be sorry! And my younger son said he knew exactly how to act like his older brother, and he would do the same thing! I was so proud of my boys. They were the weapons in my arsenal. Whatever you do, do not get in your son's way. Let him do what he will do. A son like that is not always a liability.
