Fog is lifting for my german wife

[PortlandDad]

Hey BR,
That was exactly how I was feeling a few days ago. As you say, the battle was won and all that was needed was to wait until the issue with her car was resolved. She was being very friendly to me: saying that she loved me every day, doing a video call at least once a day, and calling on the phone at all hours just to chat. Seemed all was going well, but if there is anything I know about myself and my W, that doesn't last long.

I was feeling comfortable enough to ask her about her alleged affair that she had 10 years ago... mistake. She got extremely angry, deleted her facebook account. I can't walk on eggshells for the rest of my life! She now says she wants a divorce and she just wants me to pay her credit cards and we are even.

Financially, it is a great deal since she would be entitled to a lot more, but it would be the death of the marriage that I have been trying to salvage for the last 7 months.

I am convinced that she is sick and needs help, but it just doesn't seem like I can give her the help that she needs.