Going straight forward...antlers 5th thread.

[Gardener]

sandi,

....you LBS have to be told this stuff or you will hang yourselves!

This why I follow you (and a couple of others) so much around all of these threads that I'm surprised you haven't called the cops on me yet. Your experience and counsel has been invaluable to me.

At times it may sound or even feel like a "game" is being played when you LBS are told to "act as if"

Am I wrong or is "as iffing" misused a lot around here? Seems to me like many people us it in the sense of act "as if" you'll be okay whatever happens" or act "as if" you're detached, etc., like a "fake it 'til you make it" approach. What I got from the DB book is to, for example, act "as if" your next exchange with your spouse (or whatever) is going to produce the exact outcome or response as what you imagine would be the perfect, successful outcome and you will convey what you want to convey ably, confidently and do your best DBing without obsessing.

Or am I completely missing "as iffing" myself?