Someone else commented about why the WAS would be so surprised that the LBS is desirable to others and I was trying to make the point that a) I don't think they are surprised and b) It means very little with regard to what the LBS was bringing to the R with the WAS and c) despite the frustration for the WAS and that it gets the WAS's attention, it doesn't necessarily register as evidence that the WAS will get that new sparkly LBS in the M if they come back (been there done that) and it goes both ways...watching an ex hook up with new skin sucks and hurts and is weird but can be more about ego than envy.