It's sad to see another family be torn asunder, but you will look back and be so glad that you didn't piss away all the power by waiting for WAW to come to her senses.
It's sad to see another family be torn asunder, but you will look back and be so glad that you didn't piss away all the power by waiting for WAW to come to her senses.
I've sent two text messages to W:
Last night:
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If you can handle the stress I would appreciate discussing the marriage at some point. Give our daughter a goodnight kiss for me.
This morning:
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Would you be willing to have a conversation about the kids/marriage? I do not wish to discuss legal matters.
I'm not going to bother further. She acts as if she doesn't feel guilty but she can't be bothered to respond to anything that asks for a difficult conversation.
In terms of hard and fast shots, I sent the following grounds to oppose a motion for continuance should her attorney file one to my attorney since he has been waffling and wanting to allow her a continuance unopposed:
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1. Plaintiff/Plaintiff's counsel has not cooperated in a timely fashion or in good faith in following the court's lawful order for a psychological evaluation. 2. Defendant/Defendant's counsel has provided the names of 4 qualified doctors to perform the evaluation. Plaintiff's counsel rejected them without explanation. 3. Plaintiff has made no attempt to schedule an appointment with a doctor to complete the psychological evaluation. 4. Defendant is being unduly burdened financially by Plaintiff's transparent delay tactics. 5. Plaintiff's counsel has conferred with Defendant's counsel as to her reason for a continuance being a personal vacation. 6. Plaintiff's counsel's conduct since the May 12 hearing is prejudicial to the administration of justice pursuant to rules 3.2 and 3.4(c) of the Rules of Professional Conduct.
I told him that delay for the sake of avoiding trial is NOT a legitimate interest of a client. If her attorney continues filing continuances without legitimate grounds I have absolutely no problem filing a complaint with the state Bar Association regarding her fitness to practice law.
I told him to inform her that it is not in his client's interests to protect her client from not following a lawful order of the court and to let me know if that would be a problem.
Something tells me she will miraculously not file for a continuance and the Judge will not be pleased that she hasn't made any attempt to follow his order. My attorney will probably be a little cold acting - but I'm the one paying him, not her.
Seems like I have to drag him the rest of the way since I have a winning case and he just wants to delay to milk me for funds at this point.
I hate feeling like I now have to fight my own attorney to get things finalized. The unspoken 'threat' to his own self-preservation is that he is required to report misconduct under rule 8.3 and it would look very bad on him to have his client file a report.
I am still capable of conducting the "war" properly even though I've recently had problems with emotional detachment. W does not understand how bad of a position she is in legally, and she really has nothing to lose by discussing things with me.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Excellent -- don't let the As drag this thing out, just for more $$$.
Puppy
I'm not the average client and I believe my attorney knows that but keeps forgetting.
The elements of my case are proven, i.e. Adultery fault ground. The only thing missing is the completion of the psychological evaluation.
W has taken every bit of rope she has been given. Going to trial only helps me at this point. It is not my fault that her attorney has been delaying the process and refusing (willfully) to complete the Judge's court order.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
D1 was doing well this morning. She was sitting in her high chair when I arrived, and started waving her arms and reaching for me to pick her up. We played for a few minutes and I got her interested in some toys before leaving so she wouldn't cry.
I have heard zero response from my attorney, and my W's attorney has not attempted to file any continuance motion. I imagine I won't have to say much else and she will miraculously decide not to attempt a continuance.
Trial: 5:22:31:30
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Things have gone well at work the past couple of days. I've been very productive, and am in the process of moving to work from home 100% of the time which will make it easier to care for the kids.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Things have gone well at work the past couple of days. I've been very productive, and am in the process of moving to work from home 100% of the time which will make it easier to care for the kids.
I've been very fortunate in that respect. No matter how bad things have gotten for my M - I am still a very fortunate person in that I have three wonderful children, stable employment, the ability to work from home, and a family that loves and supports me.
I'm finding it harder to remember what was good about my M. Obviously we had problems, stress, and other things which made it fertile ground for an A. I'm not going to hold W entirely responsible for the A - although I do hold several things against her:
1. Complete lack of concern for the welfare of the children 2. Complete lack of concern for the damage to our family finances 3. Complete lack of concern for anyone but herself and her avoidance of facing her own demons, BPD or otherwise
I am under the assumption that my M can end on this trial date. It may not, it may end 30-60 days later if the Judge wants to "really be sure" and accepts the fact that W and her attorney let 60 days go by without attempting to follow the court order.
I also believe that W will mellow out a bit when the D is final and will "remember" that the M wasn't as horrible as she made it out to be.
I just don't see how that trust could be rebuilt at this point. This has been a waste of time, emotional energy, and finances.
Trial: 4:23:57:28
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
I do not believe that trust can be rebuilt in these sithces. Not really. You have seen what the WAW is capable of and things are never going to be the same. Innocence lost, and all that.
