Oh, yes that's certainly true re men and women at the hospital bedside!
For a long time H never ever asked about my health and didn't even seem to care at all. He has asked and has been supportive (from a distance) only over the past few months.
My health issues are all but over now but I need constant monitoring which can be stressful at those times. The longer I go, the less testing I need. My health is certainly not a day to day issue so I am very lucky. Hopefully this surgery will close the door on that chapter and start a new one.
With regard to my parents-they loved H as a son and they are still hurting. H does understand this and has expressed that he wouldn't blame them if they never spoke to him again.
I read 'Why Women Talk and Men Walk' by Love and Stosny along with Mars and Venus stuff and those books certainly highlighted the m/f differences for me. Should be compulsory reading before marriage!!
