AWESOME! This brings up an issue in my marriage to the STBXH. At the end of our relationship, he brought up how mad he was that I made him throw away his dragon shirts. That I had tried to change him into the dad (tshirts, blue jeans, khakis). He had asked me years before if I liked his shirts (dragon). I said that I didn't. He threw them away on his own accord. When this got brought up during the ILYBNILY speech, he said that I made him throw them away. I told him that I did not like the shirts, but never told him that he needed to throw them away and I never told him not to wear them when he wanted to. They were his clothes and I loved him in whatever he wore and felt comfortable in. I never realized how emeshed he was in my opinions of him. This was a definite eye opener for me. He said when he left that he had tried for so long to change. He was changing things that were not important to me! UGH! *slapping forehead*
The bold is his problem, his issue to resolve and has little to do with you. Let's just say I relate.
