SP, You have more in common with Mrs. SP now than ever before. You can relate to her in ways not possible until now. Much of what you write in this post could be what she said to her sympathetic ears a year or so ago. If only they would have stood up to her and reminded her that she is STILL married ~ to honor her committment to her H in the face of adversity.
You are still married.
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08