Thanks, everyone! I went golfing with my sister today and she said that one of my male cousins (one year older than me) told her I should 'kick Dan to the curb' and that he was a dumb ass for leaving...
That being said, his own wife left HIM for several months 3 1/2 years ago. She had a PA, left him, it was nasty between them over their two little boys. She said she wished he was dead one day. A week later he found out he had a cancerous tumor. He called and told her she may get her wish...she came running back when she found out about the tumor and they have been together ever since. In fact she is pregnant with a little girl. So it is ironic he would suggest I drop Dan when he took his own wife back. Although, he may just be advocating the 'tough love' approach, which he took. His brother's wife left him, also, last fall. They were separated a couple months. The day she left he got lawyered up, the kids had to have their own cell phones to talk to the parents b/c they would not talk to each other. Strange in both cases my guy cousins flat shut the door on their wives and both came back...
Anyway my kids are doing pretty well. They are with their dad today, he came over for church and said, "My parents are meeting my grandparents for lunch at noon. You can come up with us..." like he just expected I would. I surprised him and said No, I am golfing with my sister. So he has the kids, which is why I could go golfing. Then to lunch, then running errands. Think now I will mow the lawn. Which I actually kind of enjoy...
I am mostly glad I told my family. It was long past time. Part of me just fears the repercussions should we reconcile down the road. However, both my cousin's wives have been welcomed back into the family, and in both cases there was definitely TMI in terms of how much was shared with everyone in the family...
