I think both parties can sort of turn on their best qualities for new people. It is a sort of sad irony that if they could just turn them on with each other, R might be possible.
They can 'turn them on with each other'! It's possible, with work, to get rid of the bad...and increase the good!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
