Piecing 20 yrs of SSM back together

[mamanpc]

hi puppy dog
been busy with kid end of the year school stuff, birthday parties, etc.and work so didn't have much time to check back in here.
Indeed my H has not reciprocated... so yes i do worry about him starting his affair up again. BUT i was the one who started the whole 'infidelity thing' and he had always been the type of guy who was not interested in fooling around... so i don't want to make a big deal of the fact that he didn't share his email details.... he's been back for almost 6 months now and there doesn't seem to be any sign of the OW in the picture anymore. And as i spend the majority of the week working remotely from our home as well - we're in a situation where each of could go back to our 'bad old ways' and we both know that it doesn't help our R so... things seem to be progressing positively in that respect.
The next big piece of work now as I see it is on the 'SSM' aspect of our R, which probably lead to the whole situation in the first place. I would be theoretically the 'LD spouse' since i have less desire than my H, but i feel that it's because our R is not that much fun for me sexually so i've lost interest in it progressively and i need to rebuild hte capacity to communicate my needs to H more - i had tried in the past and had not succeeded in itneresting him in the aspects of ML that i like as they seem to be diametrically opposite to what he likes (pretty typical of male/female likes/dislikes from much of what i've read).
Just put the kids on the plane today to spend 3 weeks iwth their grandparents - should be a good opportunity to put some spark back into R with H!