KL- Let me give you an example (hijacking a bit here). We are in debt and broke and have had an extremely difficult time in our M as of recent. Now my H is living in someone else's mansion and having a great time and of course women are attracted to him. It hurts and his ego is being gratified but has nothing to do with what was actually happening in our home and what the reality of his pathology is.
Do you see what I'm saying? Basically, finding someone to boost your ego and make you "feel good" about yourself means nil about the circumstances or culpability in the M. IMO.
