Guys, the OP is "INVITED" in the home they are breaking. Sorry to be the one to tell you but... that is the truth. Never heard of a happy wife/husband being FORCED to cheat by the OP.
Happy wife's and husbands cheat too...the rate is LESS OFTEN but they fall prey to the temptation of unsavoury creeps just like unhappy people do.
BEING tempted AND accepting temptation is the problem.
I realise this is partly why its not a criminal offence, but prostitutes tempt men into sex too...there are influences in this world that drive people to do foolish thing :
Drink, Smoke, Cheat, Gamble, etc.
This notion that people are rational ALL THE TIME and that they always make CONSCIOUS decisions should be omitted in some cases...people plead for temporary insanity in court murder trials ... why not in infidelity cases?
I would suggest that the unfaithful spouse merely has to prove they were vulnerable and not capable of making healthy choices for themselves...
The OP is usually the designated driver who decided they should both get drunk and hop in the car rather than taking the person HOME SAFE to their SPOUSE.
I am not suggesting anyone is FORCED to cheat, that word was never used above at all.
My argument is that they are VULNERABLE and the OP exploits that vulnerability.
EVERY WOMAN who has had an affair on this board I have read is very quick to point out how emotionally vulnerable they were when the OP showed up.
Ask whatdidido or others, they will confirm that. Some of them may even advocate criminal charges brought against their OP.
Children are vulnerable, thats why they are protected by law. They aren't expected to make healthy choices for themselves.
But what about adults? When someone's mother dies or their father, or they have a miscarriage or lose their job are they not vulnerable too? Having a creep show up and tempt you into an affair at a troubled time like that is horrible..and in my mind criminal.
