I've seen that sign in a few places; here in Australia, Fiji and Germany (in German).
I do feel my chances at true reconciliation are representative of that. W could stick around forever but it would simply drive my goodwill balance further into the red.
W seems to think it's OK to keep secrets, lie, have sex with another man when you're pregnant with your husband's child, rehash my past wrongdoings as a pathetic attempt to manipulate etc. I ask myself if I can possibly live with it.
How could any real man with a nanogram of self-respect look forward to a glorious future with such a woman?
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
How could any real man with a nanogram of self-respect look forward to a glorious future with such a woman?
Most don't if it gets to the stage your describing. I certainly tried with mine for a very long time, but in the end, I came to the same realization that you are now having. I regret my M didn't work out, but I don't regret taking the action I did to leave it.
I felt my sanity slipping away the more I cohabited with her. I think looking back, I stayed a little longer than I should have for my Son's sake, but it only became more hopeless and depressing for me.
An older Woman once told me she thinks Men have less tolerance for pain in a relationship, so they are more likely to leave a broken one if they can't reconcile it in a timely manner. I think she is spot on from reading testimonials on here.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
Saffie, my strategy is to ensure the wellbeing of the child as much as I am able and then to exit the marriage.
W doesn't want to love me like a wife should love her husband and I cannot see how I could ever forgive this latest round of abuse. I rang OM yesterday to ask what his intentions were with my wife, and he made it very clear to me he doesn't want her - could be smokeblowing but he was telling me about his new girlfriend, proceeding with caution. There are so many lovely girls out there more deserving of me - one might make a decent wife.
Will post some more soon
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
KerryK, they are still there my good friend, and Bondi Beach is very overrated. There are some far more beautiful beaches here in Sydney and countless other places where lovely and decent women hang out. It's a city of 4.5 million after all.
Yesterday my wife was snipping and griping about everything and saying cruel things like "let's see how many horns this baby is born with", "if you leave then be sure to come back in December and collect your baby" and "I can't have an abortion GH31, it's a dangerous procedure".
When I went and hung out with my friend yesterday we didn't discuss my situation at all but I left thinking what a horrible, sick, deranged whore I'm married to. I had to sit outside the house in my car because I felt like killing her. I agree with Saffie that this baby of ours is another tool to be used, a stick to try and beat and manipulate me with. I joked about this and she said "yes exactly". It's her glibness about all of this that gives me the shivers.
Phoenixdeux, I will get out of there.
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
Yes, but tell her you will be back in December to collect your baby!
What ugly talk from someone who could be enjoying her life, but chooses to be unhappy and make everyone around her unhappy. Sounds like she did check on having the abortion, and was told that at this point it is a dangerous procedure.
It is a shame. This really could be a very happy time of both or your lives. But she is just a miserable person.
