the idea of putting a no dating policy in the sep. was that if there was no one else in her life she would think more about the marriage.A sep. agreement is a legal doc. that is enforceable in court.If she dated ,then she would be in breach of contract.Anyway that doesn't matter now.She said she decided on divorce the other day.Says she thought about it a lot.Considering 2 days earlier she told me D was a big decision.I don't know how she could have thought about it that much.I know the whole premise behind this site is to save our marriages.Most people on here are in similiar situations.How far do we go beofre we give up?I mean right know it is up to me to file for D or do nothing.She can't file against me in my state.Being the the that wants to save the marriage,how do I proceed with this?By not doing anything, I am keeping her in a marriage that she doesn't want right now.But at least we are still married and maybe things will work out in time.but that might make her resent me more.If I do file,she might be happy but I would feel like I never had a chance.I know we say not to let our spouses control us but in this sitch.i feel like she has left everything up to me.
