total quarter life mlc

[Sanderika]

Hi mdoodles.....

I have been following along....I had to depart from posting for a bit...I do this when I feel I am developing a "bad attitude". I come to the boards for support and advice and to offer some and then end up frustrated by reading all the posts. It really hurts me so much to see all the people out there with troubles like ours. When I escape from it I can re-focus on my stand and it gives me time to think about all the posts and advice and opinions. I am not sure if this makes any sense to you....

I too have been the victim of the OW calling and harrassing me...

Once I started to share her verbal phone message attacks with H, they stopped.

Since OW's line comes up as a private caller, do you know her #?

If so.........

I would not stand for it...Put a # block on your land-line. Change your cell #, don't share it with H, be sure to explain the reason why. H has your land-line # tell him until this activity ceases you would appreciate it if he reaches you through that avenue.

If H is reasonable at all he will understand the frustration this is causing you and he will not be angered by your decision, he will support it instead.

You do not have to live with harrassment. He should not want you or son to either.

I think this will cause her even more frustration and anxiety.
AND, who cares if it does, right???? She isn't deserving of any
courtesy or respect. Block her from your existence.

Be sure you are careful at home too...read on....

I hope she does not know where you live. These "Psyco-B*tches"
are low life enough to come knocking when they become threatened.
Please keep all your doors locked even in the middle of the day. Keep your car locked in the yard too. If she is like the "P-B" in my sitch she will get macho enough to show up when you least expect it.

The OW in my sitch came to my home once and threatened me, that was back in Nov. '06. It was election night, I was watching the returns. It was 10:10pm. My son was in bed. She used forceable entry to get into my kitchen. Yes, I had opened the door-I didn't expect it would be her. I live in a very small town-all friendly. I could not keep the door shut against her strength. The OW has about 7" in height over me and about 60-70 lbs. Before I knew it I was being pushed around and verbally assaulted with vulgar swears. Son heard it all. I ended up being punched and tossed down a set of granite stairs and a broken finger with lots of bumps and bruises. She went on to break a window in my truck. Her big complaint for the evening:
"STAY AWAY FROM MY BOYFRIEND" YOU heard me....YUP!!! "STAY AWAY FROM MY BOYFRIEND". OMG!!! OMG!!! OMG!!!

Just one of many stories I could tell...It's been a long 47 months!!

You see the MLC of these H's take them from here into the lives of women like these. They cannot see the devastating destruction and unhealthy alliance being with these trollops causes.

It truly takes time and repetition of destructive behaviors by the OW, along with patience and love and compassion, forgiveness and kindness and time from us to enable them to see through the fog to a place where they can be comfortable again. With hope it is with us and not with another OW. They WILL NOT stay with these OW they are with right now. I truly believe this. Their days are numbered.

I think they would return home if they were guaranteed in some way that things were truly different here at home. They want to come back but not to what was....

I am sorry you are being harrassed...I have been there. Look at it that she is only digging her own grave. Her true colors are really ugly!!!!!!!!!

Take care, my thoughts are with you....

Sanderika