Great goals, just with number 4, be aware of the difference between seeking his opinion on the choice, and allowing him to make the choice himself . I was stuffing up here. I would go to my H with a problem and a couple of possible solutions. My communication style is to use these for a debate, come up with the best option or a third option after debate and move on.
His process is to look at them, shutup and think, select B and thats it, all done. By me debating it he then saw it as invalidating his choice.
Have you noticed how your H comes to conclusions ?
