It's MY life now!!!........

[Silent Chrleader]

Thanks, [[[[[[Annabelle, 25 and BM]]]]]]!!

It's been a lllloooooonnnnngggggg road, but I am feeling pretty good. Finally approaching "happy" even.

It's funny to think of H up at the dream property with GF's family. He told me that he wanted S18 to go up there to "be part of his new family" as S18 had described it to me, but so that he could show S18 that in that his relationship with GF had no bearing on his relationship with S18, and that S18 was still H's "primary concern". I told H that I understood that, and that I knew that the distance in his and S18's relationship hurt them both very much, and that I would do all in my power to support and encourage S18 in doing his part to bridge that gap.

H admitted that he had "caged some information" (i.e. didn't tell me that GF & family was going up to dream property with him this weekend) from me in an effort to "avoid undue stress". I told him that by that I didn't know if he meant undue stress for him or me but that I would really rather hear the truth and that there was no reason to tell me anything other than the truth because I really wished him no harm and only wanted him to be happy. I also told H that I really felt that his "cagey" behavior did nothing but send the message to S18 that it was OK to be dishonest..... thus S18's recent behavior. H actually seemed to understand and agree to this point.

I am coming to see that nothing can ever take away the long history H and I have together. I know him much better than perhaps anyone does...... maybe even himself. I have truly loved him unconditionally, and will always be there for him (and he says he will be there for me too....... to work on the house...... fix cars..... I can use the dream property any time.......). He sat and talked with me on the phone last night for about a half hour, and I am pretty sure that GF was there.

I'm wondering if perhaps I may turn out to be a tough act to follow!...... poor woman!