Well, my suggestion is that if you ever do have a R with a different person....that you do not get into any hurry to M. Also, be very particular about their character. When people are young, they tend to look at all the obvious things...like good looks, personality, education, talent, money, family background....you know, that sort of stuff. But, most of that can be lost or when you get older you may realize that some of it isn't that important after all. But the "character" of a person....now that is what I find is the most important trait of all. When a couple gets older and the looks (and other things) are gone....it sure is nice to know your S is a person with great character! It takes time to build good, strong, decent character and it doesn't happen (I don't think) by accident. I have seen a few people who I wondered how they turned out as well as they did (knowing the famil/background) but perhaps that is something that has to come from deep within one's soul. I have also seen it the opposite direction. I've seen great people have the sorriest kids I've ever seen! Parents would give everything in their power to help their kids in life and those kids grow up and they are just older sorry-a$$ adults! So, I'm not real sure where character comes from....if it is inherited from some gene we are born with....or if it is "taught" to us.....or if it has to be "caugt" by us. Hummmm.
Well, just yacking here this evening. Thinking about what you said and hoping you will be careful in whoever you chose to spend the rest of your life with.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
