i know i probably screwed up talking to her, but at this point it's kinda whatever
I was a tiny bit concerned that she was going to drag you down to where she was trying her darnest to get you....but sweetie, you held you own with her and that made the call worth every minute!! I think you need more than a gold star, so how about a great big hug? (((( YEAH JOSH!!)))
Now that is not my usual style, so be complimented!
I have hopes that you will move forward in a better pace, but let me warn you that she "is" jealous that you are handling this S as well as you "appear" to her. As long as she could yank your chain around, she was in control. Now, she doesn't feel she has power over you b/c you've taken it away from her! She isn't through and I think she'll pull several "stunts" before she gives up (or grows up....whichever is first). I believe you gained a lot of ground through the way you handled that phone call and you should be proud.
For the next several days, you may need to make sure you are not available for any calls and stay really busy. That won't stop the emails or TM's, but you don't have to answer the emails (BTW, I love how you did the dog..lol)and you can postphone the TM responses and then make them one word answers.
I look for her to try to set up a face to face meeting with you....and do her little "act" with you. If you don't agree to meet her, then she will just "show up" at your door some night. She knows what buttons to push to get you to eat out of her hand (or so she thinks). If she can't make you feel one way about her....then she'll try another. If that doesn't work, then she will go for the kill. You know, play on your sexual needs--when all else fails. If you succumb to her sexual advances, she'll feel like she has taken back the control in the stitch. So....you better be mighty strong there. Expect anything and everything from her.
I hope I'm wrong about her, but I think she'll do about anything to get your attention when she discovers you are "moving forward" and that you aren't acting interested in her. It may become very funny to observe. Be prepared for "everything" her mind can imagine.
Stay in touch. This should be interesting!
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
