Well, I had a great time yesterday going to see the fireworks with D24, SIL & GD. We got a pizza and sat on our blanket played with the baby and took a short nap...... pretty blissful!
There was a "klinker" however, in that I saw S18 there...... he was supposed to go up to the dream property with H and some guys he works with (and some of OW's family). S18 flaked out on H saying that his friends favorite uncle died and the friend asked S18 to go down to Portland for the funeral. Yep totally lame excuse and H said so, and so did I for that matter when S18 "asked for my advice". S18 just didn't want to do the work they were planning to do up there.
When I saw him in the park and chased him down (he was surprised to see me there I know). I told him "Wow, this is some funueral...I didn't know your friend's uncle was so popular!" He was drunk and I was so disappointed in him! I had a talk with him but not much because it does no good when he's drunk. I had offered for him to come home and go back to school earlier this week, but told him last night that that offer was absolutely contingent on him cutting out this type of behavior. He was actually somewhat apologetic, rather than defiant as he has been in the past. I am so worried for him.
I did call H up at the dream property to discuss my "run in" with S18. I really thought about whether to do that. It wasn't emergent or anything, and not "good DBing", but then I thought that I really don't care about that anymore! I wanted to talk to my son's father about my son. So I did. And it was a very nice supportive comiserative discussion. I really do think that there is every chance that when all is said and done, H and I could very well come out of this whole thing as good friends!
I did some research today and I now have plans for doing line dance, and swing dance lessons. I also have some info on guitar lessons, but I'm going to hold off on that one for now. Thinking of going to hear a rock/soul band tonight at the casino with a friend......
I'm excited about my new life!
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd