I'm not sure why, but I couldn't post in my original thread.
The mods locked your thread. It's normal.
I'm sorry for your loss buddy.
That's a positive exchange that your wife initiated. Good.
Perhaps it would be best to write down a few short term goals. It will give you something to work toward and take your mind off of the big picture. It may help you to stay in the here and now. This is a long bumpy road, the only way out is through it, one step at a time.