Hi Gardener. I read through your situation and what has transpired since you started posting.
Let's start here....
I believe there is someone else she is interested in. If I am correct (and I believe that I am) then you need to change your game plan up. She is showing many of the signs that a woman shows when they are interested in someone else or having an affair. The biggest hint is that she seems to be "pushing the divorce."
The reason women push a divorce is that they want to pursue someone else and they think that the divorce relieves them of guilt. OR. The person she is interested in is giving her the impression that if she gets divorced that the relationship will move forward.
That is my take. It is the thing that makes sense. If there was not someone else, then she would be more open about giving this time. She would be saying that she wanted to separate for now and see if her feelings changed and yada yada yada......
The only other reason I have seen when they rush the divorce is when there has been physical or verbal abuse. And even then, they don't rush it as fast as the woman who is interested in someone else. She is lying to you that she "just wants to get it over with" That is a smokescreen for something else.
I think you need to do some investigation to find out the truth here. AND that does not mean asking her. She will deny. They almost always do. The signs are there.
