I appreciate the affirmation. It's a fine line between accepting our role in the events leading up to the S and taking on too much responsibility and guilt for that role.
I don't cry infront of the kids. They were gone for the night so it was safe. Actually I haven't been in the tub much since H left b/c we used to go out most nights and talk about the day and reconnect. Did much less of that this past winter. Oh well!
When my D16 and I talked last night, I gave her a brief DB explanation. We take care of ourselves, give H the time and space he needs to work on things, and try to love him unconditionally despite his actions. She's still pretty angry with him for leaving and feels the more time that goes on the less likely he'll ever sit down to talk. She may be right, but we have to keep the faith.
I like what you said about demonstrating my dignity and strength thru adversity. We are modeling for our children how to handle tough times. Just as our S's are watching our moves and changes, our children are as well. Good thoughts as we begin this holiday weekend.
Happy 4th to you and all! Maybe this Independence Day can symbolize taking back some independence and control in our own situations. And the revolution begins inside each one of us! Haha!
