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[Treese]

Snodderly you hit the nail on the head with this statement....

"Painless? Oh, he's thinking of himself and not anyone else. He wants everything to be neat and tidy and wrapped up nicely with a big bow on top. Separation and divorce are painful to everyone except the mlcer. What he's saying is that he wants to cut the ties and have everything done in a very civil manner and no tears or upsets by anyone. He thinks that you can be friends after this is over with. Maybe you can and maybe you can't. I wouldn't even waste by breath trying to discuss what is painless and what isn't. He's not going to listen to you because his mind is made up. What you can do is ensure that you and your family are taken care of and make sure that your lawyer is on top of things. "

You are always so dead on....that's exactly what he's saying...I even told him he was in such a hurry to get rid of me...of course he says he's not....LOL.....

and my children will hurt the most...he says they'll be fine...that divorce happens all the time...that some of their friends parents are divorced...of course I said, "that doesnt mean it is us"...quit comparing us....and alot of those kids have issues...I mean real issues....he said, "it just gets blamed on divorce"....geez....give me that brick wall....I'll pound my head a little more...

and I will Not be his friend,,,I can't, I will be civil for my kids but not his friend....and he says he knows me better than anyone....well, he probably does, that's why he playing with my head, and pulling at my heart strings...

How come EVERYONE else knows they're in MLC and they have no clue, and will deny it til the cows come home?...blows the mind...

If I see the OW...I don't know what I'll do....seriously....that scares me....I have never called her in the 2 years I've known about all this....I'm sure she has to wonder a little what's my plan....