Just starting a new thread... It's gonna be a slow ride to #100!! Where are you Cory?
Things are going slow. H is burnt out by work but did listen to me and took 2 days off this last week which he used to sleep. In my house.
We decided I am going ahead with the vacation and if he wants to join later he can. If I want to stay I can, if not I leave the kids and the car and fly back alone. I am OK with that.
He is trying hard to get back into our lives. Not as my man. As a father and companion. I think he is too tired for anything else...
I am ok. My next batch of jewelery is almost ready and I cant wait to see people's reactions. Another 2 painting orders last week. My finances are slowly starting to look better. K
I bought a nice cell phone. Practically for free because of my huge last years's bills
Things are seeming to change somehow! He is slow, we already knew that. Really think about selling your jewelry here, it is beautiful. Have a lovely weekend. Hopefully I can catch up with you sometime on the alternate universe.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Since no one else asked, I will have a margarita, please!
I would love some of your jewelry, too!
Glad your H took some time off to sleep/recover. I think you are seeing that from his point of view, the job situation has him so exhausted and run down he cannot think of 'fixing' anything else until he does something to trim back his work load...
#65! That surely must be a record that will never be broken (ala Flo Jo). I wonder if you win something like being put on the cover of MWD's next book. Maybe you win a new car when you get to 100.
I think the locking fairy has been on vacation for a month or two, and a lot of overloaded threads finally got locked last night.
It occurs to me, with the whole exhaustion thing with your H, that maybe, as BJ says, your H is so worn out from his work schedule that he simply doesn't have any energy left to expend on you. Sometimes it's like being sick...there just isn't any juice left for anything except the absolute necessities. This doesn't excuse him for not stepping up for months and months, but maybe it's a partial reason. No advice on what to do, just something to ponder.
Take care of yourself and those cute kids!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
"It's gonna be a slow ride to #100!! Where are you Cory?"
Over in Newcomers. You know that's how I roll.
"Things are going slow. H is burnt out by work but did listen to me and took 2 days off this last week which he used to sleep. In my house."
"Life" takes its toll does it not? Lets say your "Work" was all this DB'ing you have done. His "Work" is well... just Work. Amazing how two people in two different "Work" situations.. feel the same way. So.. what if you come "here" (DB.com) to sleep. And he comes to "your" house to sleep? Is it a "safe" place.. for both of you? You give me "Love" when I don't show up. Part of me questions if he can "see" the "Love". You can "talk" to me. Sometimes I think we are too much alike in how we talk to "others". Part of me wants to tell you to pull up a chair and some paper and "sketch" him while he is sleeping.
Cory is sitting back and watching. I expect you are doing the same.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
Folks post what they believe. Sometimes it's a mob mentality, many times not.
I get rattled by a post, thread, when it hits a nerve with me. And if I pay attention to that, a nugget of truth is uncovered.
The only person we can control is ourselves. You've been walking a long hard road with twists and turns.. but have always persevered with your Kalni-Marianess.
Stepping away is great.. and vacations are better! I should take one soon.
Gypsy, I find no valuable truth in "fanatic" behaviors, whatever they refer to.
Cory, you are sitting back and watching huh? Hope the view is good. I am just playing along, conciously letting him waste some more of my time while he tries to figure out his issues. In the meantime, I am living my life the best way I can, I am missing kissing and loving and laughing while we are together. I am relieved everytime he leaves the house, quickly resuming my routines.
Today I refused to him kissing my cheek all warm and fuzzy, he does that, he kisses me with warmth everytime he leaves, the only time, probably because he is happy to leave also... Whatever, I told him I "cant have anymore kisses, I've had enough" with some irony and a smile... I wonder if he got the message.
Interestingly, he gave me his bank account code the other day, I went back and checked all the transactions since Jan 2007. No funny charges or anything weird except that jewelry he bought during one of his trips that he claims his friend asked him to pay for (which I crossed checked with his GF and she did get a present from him back then from that shop).
It's really hot here. I havent started any of the paintings yet and I am getting stressed about it. Did finish a couple of necklaces today though.I am wearing one of them tomorrow. Blue and silver. I never wore blue in the past. I am changing I think. K
