Saffie, my strategy is to ensure the wellbeing of the child as much as I am able and then to exit the marriage.

W doesn't want to love me like a wife should love her husband and I cannot see how I could ever forgive this latest round of abuse. I rang OM yesterday to ask what his intentions were with my wife, and he made it very clear to me he doesn't want her - could be smokeblowing but he was telling me about his new girlfriend, proceeding with caution. There are so many lovely girls out there more deserving of me - one might make a decent wife.

Will post some more soon

Me: 46
W: 46
T: 23
M: 20
DS12
DD11
DS5

W left: 01/28/08
Discovered OM: 02/26/08
W back for 9 days: 04/08
W returned 05/21/08
EA/PA - 01/08-07/09
W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)