Jumping in (1st post)

[Gardener]

So you're half and half. Stop clingy, don't worry about talking. Just listen when she does.

Clingy long over, My wife doesn't want to talk about our sitch. At all.

If you can stop drinking...you can stop the depression.

Depression stopped. You're preaching to the (nutritionally fanatical) choir, here. My solution was B Complex, B5 (stress), Magnesium, specific amino acids for specific, test-proven depleted neurotransmitters. I initially went on meds immediately for urgent relief. Am now weaning off as per Dr. because of the positive effect of the supplements. With the depression lifted, at least now when I am sad...I know why. During depression only two things bothered me: !) Absolutely nothing, and 2) absolutely everything

The vitamins listed above, probably also some D (or sunshine), exercise.

I get plenty of both (hey, you know your stuff, here, don't you?)

For my wife's birthday I called and lm: "Happy Birthday. Whatever you need for this to be a great birthday, is what I wish for you."

We women WANT heroes, we want strong men...your W pointed that out....and you ARE that.....you just have had some glitches.

I am and I sure have.

Put your ring on with the first positives you get from her. And don't take it off unless you divorce.

This may be a good idea: to put it back on in response to... I'll give that some thought.

Start doing MORE of the things you two love.

We don't do anything together. Her choice.
But I will think about Fireworks tomorrow or perhaps a hike soon. We both love that and a while back my wife did say she hasn't hiked since separation. She's afraid of going in alone.

Now...about YOU again. When life was exciting to you...what were you doing, what were you saying?

Okay, short answer. We lived in a condo and did things and went places. Simple stuff. We've owned an old farmhouse for the last eleven years. Realized/admitted a while before bomb that the house takes every spare minute and every spare dollar hence we weren't doing much anymore and had decided to sell it this year.

This can be such positive exciting thing that you two have a chance to turn this around. And I really believe you are going to.....And this NEXT HALF of your lives will be so amazing.

Thank you for that.

And thank you for your concern and effort.