Closing thought. There is the element of a game plan or play book mentality in all of this, but my feeling is that is backing off, releasing the pursuit, helps H clear his head, and be able to breathe again, then that can only be helpful. And, if I am now asking H's opinion on thibgs, instead of forcing mine on him, then that is good for me overall, as well. Who likes a controlling/pushing friend, spouse, colleague? So, these actions may be part of a plan, but they are necessary for overall improvement. We can all use that!
