So is what I'm doing establish a connection or is it just an "artificial harmony of friendship" that is going keep us at arms length......
Don't know. Sounds like there is a connection there. But, don't know where it leads.
My WAW and I are still in teh same house - different rooms. She also "reaches out" the same way your W does - "need anything from the store" etc.). But the wall is definitely there.
I had to start detaching b/c otherwise, I was going nuts. So, now I just focus on me. And, yes, I miss her, or at least the good parts of what was "her."
Someone else much wiser than me put it this way. I'm working on my next relationship. I hope that is with my W, but she may not be wise enough to know that. If not, then God has someone else out there who needs me more than my W. May not be what I want right now, but I may also end up being happier than I have ever been.
