OK. I'm beat, and headed to sleep. Update on goals for Day 1.
The only time I contacted H was because I had to... The guy that drops our boat lift in the water was here and needed to know exactly where it needed to be. We changed the pier configuration this year, so I didn't have the answer. I called, asked his opinion of the boat lift placement, and got off the phone quick. (I'm so very busy!)
I took the boys out wakeboaring behind the waverunner tonight. Hilarious! We've done it before, but it was so fun, since it us so much more work than behind out tower boat. I am counting this as exercise, as my thighs are killing me. The water was choppy and I had to stand up a lot.
So, all in all, ok day.
Closing thought. There is the element of a game plan or play book mentality in all of this, but my feeling is that is backing off, releasing the pursuit, helps H clear his head, and be able to breathe again, then that can only be helpful. And, if I am now asking H's opinion on thibgs, instead of forcing mine on him, then that is good for me overall, as well. Who likes a controlling/pushing friend, spouse, colleague? So, these actions may be part of a plan, but they are necessary for overall improvement. We can all use that!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
