mdoodles, I'm sorry, but I haven't read all of your back story...how old is OW in your case? Of course you and your H aren't all that old anyway, so she's probably pretty young. I'm guessing there is probably a legit reason for her immaturity. (OW in my case is 24, was 22 when A started (my H is 45).) She does sound just a little insane and delusional and desperate!

Hang in there!

Peace,
Dawn

Me 45/H 47, no kids
Together since 1985; M/1992
Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001
Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues
H left 11/24/08
minimal contact, no legal action
http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1