Yes, H said Montreal is very cosmopolitan. H had been taking french lessons and is enamored with the french speaking women and in general their laid back views on judging others, morals, sex, etc. H wants out of the USA in addition to me. H actually said today if our country had shown any promise after electing Obama he would have stayed! YIKES. Now it is the politicians fault he is leaving my marriage. And as for Gov. Sanford, H just goes crazy when that is on the news. He agrees how hypocritical the guy is, etc. but of course he claims the media and everyone talking about should get out of peoples private lives and realize that marriage is hard and a commitment that some cannot keep. Such as his case, H has tried to be my husband and accept the things he would like to change about me but he is done. I feel so sorry for Mrs. Sanford and her children to go through this s&*t in public would be too much to bear.
H told me today he would like to get D paperwork going and have me drive him close to the Canadian border mid-August and his new friends in Montreal will drive from Thunder Bay to get him. It just sounds so wonderful. Today I am being reminded that if I don't agree to the divorce we will waste money with my getting an attorney of my own and I am already ruining his summer with dragging this out and staying in denial that H wants out.
Believe me I've DB'd my butt off and my C said (my sessions with her have ended) I was doing awesome and this sounded like I may be successful. Well I had thought the same and even began to be lulled into this DB'ing stuff is working. It is not and you are right H needs to go because we cannot just work this thing out if H won't meet me half way. And, more importantly I know H and once he goes he is gone...
I have got to the little strength left and detach that is all I have is my dignity because the man I married is gone. I only hope things for you get better I realized that not long ago if H did not leave the house and stayed we would be in the same boat as before and even though I love him deeply and feel he is the family I've only ever wanted I cannot stand living like this.
Thanks for your help, keep the honesty coming, Michele
M 42 H 41 M 16 yrs. Together 20 yrs. No Kids Bomb 5/16/09 D papers in house, H wants us to do paperwork together Hope is fading...I am tired!
