Jumping in (1st post)

[sgctxok]

This is WONDERFUL information. And it's all just information right now...I don't think it's over.


So you're half and half. Stop clingy, don't worry about talking. Just listen when she does.

Women want action, even though they also want to talk. We're complicated. That's ok...because YOU're SMART. And Motivated. And capable.

If you can stop drinking...you can stop the depression.


Alcoholism and depression have some nutritional things in common.... B12, Folate, Magnesium deficiencies.

Without medicines...(and you may need meds)....there are some things you can try immediately:


The vitamins listed above, probably also some D (or sunshine) and exercise. I think you said you were doing that or that you had lost weight. It's major to beating depression.

Initiate a little. I hope the fireworks thing works out.

You probably said...but I missed...what you did for her B.



We women WANT heroes, we want strong men...your W pointed that out....and you ARE that.....you just have had some glitches.


Put your ring on with the first positives you get from her. And don't take it off unless you divorce. Start doing MORE of the things you two love.


Now...about YOU again. When life was exciting to you...what were you doing, what were you saying?



*****

Chitchat:

I understand something some things about depression and alcoholism and grief...personally. I've lost both my parents, had 2 miscarriages, a divorce....have lost close friends to death. I'm only slightly younger than you.

As we get older, and you probably know....these things weigh heavier on us. We start thinking about what the rest of our life is going to look like....we want it to be as good as possible. I'm sure your wife is thinking about that too.

This can be such positive exciting thing that you two have a chance to turn this around. And I really believe you are going to.....And this NEXT HALF of your lives will be so amazing.

peace out,
sg