Haven't been on the forum for a couple of years!! This stuff works smile . I applied Michele's suggestions with the support of a wonderful DB coach. DH never went off with OW. That was nearly 5 years ago.

I've noticed however how I'm falling into many of my pre-A behaviours which DH claims had a lot to do with him being vulnerable to OW's attentions. I tend towards nagging and being controlling. I'm here to remind myself of where things could lead to if I'm not careful.

I've been getting onto my DH's case about his weight and he hates it. In my defense, I have to say that he's put on lots of weight in the last couple of years. My goal is to STOP nagging him to exercise, to stop bringing up weight/health issues. Instead I want to up my rate of words of affirmation. I know that DH loves them and yet I'm very stingy with them.

DH came back this evening after a few days away. So far, I haven't nagged but I haven't succeeded with any WOA either. Resolution for tomorrow: Find at least 2 occasions for WOA. I did suggest we go for a walk which turned out to be nice and pretty long because the park was closed at the end we wanted to go out and DH couldn't get over the fence easily and didn't want to try. We walked all the way back to the other end of Regent's Park before walking home. I did tease him about it which maybe I should have refrained from doing. I told him he was in the 99th bottom centile of the population when it came to climbing over fences. I should have kept quiet and been pleased that it added a good hour to our walk!

It's nice to be back. I wonder whether anyone from my former days is still around.

Wendylon

Me: 51
H: 52
T: 23 yrs
M: 19 yrs
S18, D16, S14 (special needs)
PA: 2003/2004
Piecing: 2004 on
Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012