Quote: My H and I agreed between ourselves to shoot for 2-3 times a week. That just isn't happening though
I think our success is because we are being held accountable to a 3rd party right now.
Quote: I don't need referrals and can have up to 30 sessions a year with a $15 co-pay per visit.
My plan is similar, 25 visits/year @ $25.00/visit.
Quote: We do have the EAP option also, but I've found that, although free for 6 sessions, the counselors are generally not on our PPO plan.
My EAP is who set us up with with C we are seeing now, so I'm very satisfied. Also, my family doctor said he'd heard great things about this C from others.
Quote: My ex switched the verbal abuse over to our daughter after I left him in 1999; luckily, the court stopped requiring her to visit because of his abuse.
My ex does this with our youngest son, 25 {as he did it to me for decades}. Has for years and years. The ex hasn't gotten it through his head that HE is the one with the problem and should be in serious therapy. <sigh>
Quote: You have no idea how great (and encouraging) it is to hear that you're making progress. It must also be so wonderful to know that he loves you (and your relationship) enough to try.
It is wonderful, but then I knew he was like this 33 yrs ago when I first met him; it's what kept me looking for him for all that time. I told him again last night what a good guy he is and that I love him so much for trying to change.
For what it's worth, the lack of sex wasn't the only reason I suggested we see a C. I could tell he had a lot of bad memories/demons stored up inside that were keeping him from enjoying life. Hopefully we will come out of this with a better sexual side to our marriage and he will be an all-around happier person.
