That's great. It's amazing how one instance of acceptance can make us (HD) feel better. I've also gone back to initiating and actually "calmly" mentioned to my husband last weekend that we seemed to be falling back into the same old patterns. The "calmly" part is the key here...we're both hot-heads.
Did your counselor give you any advice about the frequency? I would think that us HD's would want to place the dart in the bullseye more often than our LD partners.
I've been trying to focus on other things lately to keep my mind off of this constant battle. It's really busy at work right now, which helps some. For the first time in quite a while, I feel like I'm doing a good job. It's funny how the sex stuff drags everything down. I also decided to buy a jeep (89 Wrangler), which is something I've wanted forever. Maybe it's selfish, but it felt really good to do something ONLY for me. I don't think I'm having a MLC:)
H goes to doctor next week, and then I'll start looking for a counselor. I hope we get as lucky as you in finding someone we're comfortable talking to about this. I wish my boss's wife wasn't his wife so that we could go to her; I think she'd be wonderful.
