my husband called, i let my son answer the phone, i really had no interest in talking to him.
so of course he asked to speak with me....he was as nice and as soft spoken as could be, telling me he really doesnt understand what was going on last night, he was getting such weird messages from a computer with my number and doesnt know how it happened.
so i explained to him that it is called spoofing, that i googled it after being woken up.
i told him i will be changing my cell phone number and will let him know what it is.
he seemed surprised. so i explained to him, that while i do not wish to change the number i have had since i am 18, im not interested in being roped into this sh**.
i told him i spoke with my phone company and they confirmed what had occurred. i said that while i was upset last night, im fine because i know the truth and know i didnt have any involvement.
and thats that.
so like i said, let her keep flipping and scheming.
im staying calm and laying low with limited to no reaction.
She might have gotten your phone number from his phone when he werent looking or from his phone bill if she has access to them.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
kissak, she DEFINITELY got my cell phone number from his phone, last year...
yeah, i do think i handled the call well.
im glad he really seemed to know it was not me.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
do we think its weird that h called again? i do...
i answered, said whats up, talked about the weather and i said, i will put son on the phone...when son was done, he gave me the phone, i said, i guess son is done talking, ok bye.
i dont know why he called again. i decided he is weird.
my spirits have really been much better, but im afraid to say, that the calls from psycho ow brought me further back into the love triangle.
i have to pull myself out again.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
Excellent way to handle yourself in that situation. You did great!! Try not to get roped back into the triangle. It is so hard to not get roped back into it. I say that from experience b/c that is what my H does to me. Always manages to rope me back in some how. It is simply a matter of how much we still care for the person. You have been doing great and I am really proud of you for the steps that you have taken on trying to detatch yourself and move in a positive direction!!!
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
im trying really hard. hard at what exactly, not even sure, but im trying!!!!
its better when i dont speak to him on the days i dont see him, i feel less anxiety and less stressed.
and i think without those tense feelings, i will begin to detach and move forward.
BUT i do talk to him. talking to him makes me wonder - what was he doing before he called, where is he when he calls, what will he do after etc.
i dont ask of course, just wonder.
he says he is coming tomorrow. i said, ok, but again, u need to tell me in advance as i have plans for tomorrow...
i told him (again) that going forward i need to know in advance, so we agreed on set days until he has a job.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
Think you've got the answers inside you.....keep taking the options which give you greater strength and peace. They are the steps on the road forward. C
Maybe you can try something totally off the wall and crazy every time you think about you H and/or the OW!?!?!
Pinch yourself!! LOL Maybe you'll get tired of pinching yourself so you will think about him less.
Just a silly suggestion in hopes that you can smile from it and have a better day!!
Keep at it girl, you are doing great by just trying!
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
