JR09.... hold off on that feeling...yes...the impulse is great...but I think it's best not to pursue - not to say too much...If anything, and this is something that might sound odd, there might come a time when the best thing to say is that you love her, you don't want to divorce, but that you've accepted her decision and are willing to accept what she believe she has to do to make her happy...but right now, calling her and telling her that you don't want a divorce and that you love her would set you back a lot more than would seem possible...it's just the worst part of all this - that something that feels so very right - words that are so real - can continue to push someone away...
I would suggest that you find a way to focus on your time with your kids - let them see all that there is to see in you - live in that moment...but hold off on telling her...it just doesn't help yet...sometimes, when another person is doubting, the words, "I love you", just make them feel flawed and pressured - and want to escape more...Stay lovingly detached - show her kindness - show her that you love her for herself...but I really don't think calling her and telling her these things would help...as some other posters like to point out, a lot of the impulses we followed in the past, are the very things that got us here in the first place...
