OK this is a Huge Update:

Yesterday we had a huge R-talk. I was about to give her my I-can't-live-like-this-anymore letter and she beat me to it giving me a letter first. shocked

We talked a lot last night and she wants to really go to MC/ST now! She told me how much she is hurting because she can't figure out why she is so inhibited about sex. We also talked about the many things that we do that sabotage our being happy together and meeting each other's needs.

I did give her my letter too. I think it took my saying that I will not live this way any longer, to give her that final push. That and the way I had been withdrawing over this last week. She even started reading PM last night and finished Chapter 1 already! grin

We both love each other so much and that was re-enforced last night. I think there is hope now to make our M a happy one again.

This is what I have been hoping and praying for. It only took me a year to get to this point.

Cinco