What to do when Husband's Gone & Makes No Contact?

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And when I realized that in my sitch the problem was ME, and I took H out of the equation (which is how the separation has helped in our case) - and I didn't have any anxiety or stress related to him any more, it helped me in so many ways.

I don't think much about how to get my H to come back home. I know I can't make him come back home. I know nothing I do or say to him will change his mind.

We've been together for almost ten years - of course my life, and the city I live in, are filled with OUR memories. I'm going out tonight with friends to a restaurant that WE used to go to. I'm going to a family outing tomorrow without him (well, he works overnight otherwise he might make an appearance since most of my family doesn't know about the S). I live in a house that we picked out together and just moved into a few months ago...

I know me GAL is something that he wanted me to do, long before the S. I wonder sometimes if he takes my very enthusiastic GAL and 180 right now as permission for him to move on - but it makes no difference whether he does or not. I just know I need to do it FOR ME.