I am in pretty much exactly the same place you are now. I too have finished my "stand" and am feeling a huge sense of relief......and some sadness too, but only a little.
I have to disagree that you are "judgemental". My absolute biggest turn off is judgemental people. It's a huge thing to me. And you are one of the least judgemental people I have ever "met"! We all have to make judgements for our lives, based on what we believe or have learned, but that is NOT the same as being judgemental. At least not by my definition of that word. Judgemental is somebody who doesn't respect other people's right to choose what they do in their own lives (so long as they are not hurting anybody), and doesn't have compassion for others. You are so far from that it's not even funny! Setting healthy boundaries for your life is not "judgemental"!
I'm really going to try to come down there and visit you one weekend here within the next month or so.......
Hang in there!
TJ
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