Quote: Poe, Just curious--what do you mean by a monthly cycle? I mean one day or night I dream or wake up thinking about it, then I know my body needs it. Now come complications, is this the middle of the week, what is she feeling like. Do I think I can get some, or do just visit the bathroom. Let me preface the once a month, actually it is approximately once a week, and depending upon circumstances I would just go to the bathroom and take care of my need. My dh is the same as Granite's. He waits til I am on the verge of being furious to kick it in gear. The word, hug the bear come to mind. Doesn't make me feel real desired, but it does illuminate the fact that he is deathly afraid of my temper, lol. Have you read mars/Venus, it explains a lot the percieved actions.
Quote: Also, what was it about her increased libido that made yours disappear?
When she mentioned her girlfriend, going 2 and half hours, kinda makes you feel inadequate. So why bother, she is not satified with my performance why bother. I let you know a secret, we need only a minute, the rest we do for you.
Quote: Thank you so much for your thoughts; it is so helpful to me in my own marriage. I wanted to add something else, when I was not feeling up to it, and she initated and I rejected her, and she rolled over and cried. I felt so hopeless, and did not what to do. So I did nothing. Even more stupid move, I told her if she wanted to bubble go so where else.
She cried a lot, not just sex, you kinda get tired of it. Things I did not realize at the time is I was not doing active listening and validating. I would be in my fixer mode and waiting till I could tell her how to fix it. Thats something I learned from M/V.
