Quote: Poe, Just curious--what do you mean by a monthly cycle? My dh is the same as Granite's. He waits til I am on the verge of being furious to kick it in gear. Doesn't make me feel real desired, but it does illuminate the fact that he is deathly afraid of my temper, lol.
Also, what was it about her increased libido that made yours disappear?
Thank you so much for your thoughts; it is so helpful to me in my own marriage.
Same question here. Please expound a bit.
I interpreted the monthly cycle as meaning the amount of time he feels he can safely go before I blow up?
I will say that the time frame has gotten gradually longer since I first met back up with him in April, 2002. At that time, he couldn't keep his hands off me. Of course, he attributed that to the fact that he hadn't been with a woman in 5 yrs.
I thought, "OK, so it always won't be several times a night." Boy, was I ever over-optimistic. It went to practically zero when I moved in with him. I heard all the excuses: Muscle cramps (increased potassium eliminated these), uncomfy underwear (changed style/size), etc. etc. For every excuse we came up with a solution. Still the sex went down and down until it was once a month.
Bought books, read books, offered suggestions. Sex went from once a month to 3 times a month. I thought we were on a roll. Now, it's back to once or twice a month and which is why we are going to C tomorrow.
So, Poe . . . is that what you mean by monthly cycle? The # of times average a month?
Boy, was I ever over-optimistic. It went to practically zero when I moved in with him. I heard all the excuses: Muscle cramps (increased potassium eliminated these), uncomfy underwear (changed style/size), etc. etc. For every excuse we came up with a solution. Still the sex went down and down until it was once a month. 
